Resistance. The word resistance brings fear and trembling into most writers’ hearts, mainly thanks to Stephen Pressfield who told us that we have to fight resistance like warriors if we want to stay on track as writers and authors. But my approach, as you know, is different.
In today’s episode I’m going to give you three ways, including the magic mantra of Tina Turner, so you can turn resistance into opportunity.
What is resistance?
Where there is a dream, there is resistance, says Stephen Pressfield
Resistance is the act of opposing or judging something. It can manifest as fear, doubt, or discomfort.
“Resistance cannot be seen, touched, heard, or smelled, but it can be felt. It’s a repelling force. Its aim is to shove us away, distract us, prevent us from doing our work.” Stephen Pressfield, The War of Art.
Resistance especially seeks out those in the creative realm, entrepreneurs, artists, writers, and anyone on a spiritual journey or a health path.
So how to break free? There are two ways that I know and will share with you in this episode:
1. Either disaster strikes or
2. You explore “the inner path”.
I tell two stories that demonstrate “disaster strikes” as a pathway to opportunity and then share the 3 ways I recommend to follow the “inner path” instead: my own story and that of Sam the London stockbroker.
I give three ways to breakthrough Resistance:
- Letting Go with David Hawkins
- Tina Turner’s Magic Mantra for chanting (that’s me chanting it in the background while describing it)
- Internal Family Systems (IFS): No Bad Parts because our higher Self will orchestrate our wholeness.
IFS is a featured chapter from my upcoming new book for writers and authors: Bust Writer’s Block Forever, Seven Game-Changing ways for Writers, Authors, to Kiss Writer’s Block Good-Bye and Unleash Creative Inspiration. The book also has a bonus chapter on ChatGPT Your Creative Catalyst.
Books mentioned in this podcast:
Online Dating Success Secrets for Women 40/50+, Caryl Westmore
Tina Turner photo :Credit: Helge Øverås, CC BY-SA 4.0 <https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0>, via Wikimedia Commons
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TURN RESISTANCE INTO OPPORTUNITY – 3 WAYS INCLUDING TINA TURNER’S MAGIC MANTRA
[00:00:00] Caryl Westmore: Resistance. The word resistance brings fear and trembling into most writers’ hearts, thanks to Stephen Pressfield, who told us that we have to fight resistance like warriors if we want to stay on track as writers and authors. But my approach, as you know, is different. And in today’s episode, I’m going to give you three ways, including the magic mantra of Tina Turner, so you can turn resistance into opportunity.
[00:00:36] Caryl Westmore: Hello and welcome to the Write the Book Inside You podcast: tips, tools, and interviews for coaches and healers like you who want to write a non-fiction book to boost your visibility, clients and cash flow. While making a difference. I’m your host, Caryl Westmore, a multi-published author and energy psychology tapping book coach.
[00:00:59] Caryl Westmore: [00:01:00] Now let’s jump into today’s episode…
Turning resistance into Opportunity: Three ways, including the Magic mantra of Tina Turner.
[00:01:12] Caryl Westmore: What is resistance? “Where there is a dream, says Stephen Pressfield… there is resistance.”
[00:01:20] Caryl Westmore: Resistance is the act of opposing or judging something. It can manifest as fear, doubt, or discomfort.
[00:01:28] Caryl Westmore: Resistance cannot be seen, touched, heard, or smelled, but it can be felt. It’s a repelling force. Its aim is to shove us away, distract us, prevent us from doing our work.” Stephen Pressfield, The War of Art.
Resistance especially seeks out those in the creative realm, entrepreneurs, artists, writers, and anyone on a spiritual journey or a [00:02:00] health path.
[00:02:03] Caryl Westmore: So how to break free? There are two ways that I know:
1. Either disaster strikes or
2. The inner path.
[00:02:12] Caryl Westmore: True stories:
MY PERSONAL STORY OF “DISASTER STRIKES.”
In my story in 1999, opportunity to change my life after many years of resistance was thrust on me in such a devastating way, I feared I’d never make it.
[00:02:28] Caryl Westmore: A fire started in my home, killing my beloved border collie dog and forcing my family to move, then sell our house. This was followed by the end of my 25-year marriage, leaving me alone kids were leaving home and brokenhearted. Plus, I was totally bro,ke and had no idea how to move forward.
[00:02:51] Caryl Westmore: Despairing, I got on my knees and prayed. God just let me die or find me a reason for living. I had [00:03:00] no clue how to start over –other than a soul calling, deep within, to use my talents as a writer and my passion to make a difference to others, to earn a good living, doing what I loved.
Well, once I had to let go everything, I felt like a big, fat failure. Physically, I looked dreadful. After the fire and the divorce, I was a wreck.
But the bread crumbs of the answer to my prayer began to spread out in front of me. I picked up a book by Brandon Bayes called The Journey, and something in my soul felt this was an answer to that prayer, telling me to invite her to South Africa where I was at the time, to help bring healing to the nation, which had just come out of a apartheid.
[00:03:52] Caryl Westmore: Nelson Mandela had been released and the Truth and Reconciliation Committee was revealing some of the atrocities that had [00:04:00] happened, and I thought that this is a perfect time because Brandon Bays talks about forgiveness, which healed her own football size tumor in her uterus. She’d been working for Tony Robbins when this developed, and she was guided to develop the Journey process. I then became her promoter to develop the workshops, and I saw such huge changes in myself and others that I became a Journey practitioner and traveled with Brandon all over the world for over two years sharing her beautiful process, the Journey.
Overcoming Resistance to change was forced on me, but it turned into a life-changing opportunity. And I say, it’s never too late to be what you might have been.
[00:04:53] Caryl Westmore: After Brandon, I was invited to be a promoter for people like Karl Dawson with E F T [00:05:00] Tapping and Matrix Reimprinting, the Work of Byron Katie, and workshops for the Barefoot Doctor. Now, from all of these, I learned some of their tools and techniques as I helped promote them. It was really a wonderful opportunity for me to expand and to do something that I loved.
[00:05:16] Caryl Westmore: I had been a journalist, so promoting them was part of my mission, was part of my talent.
[00:05:23] Caryl Westmore: Let me tell you another story about someone completely different. One of my friend’s sons. I’ll call him Sam. His world fell apart a few years ago, so badly that he tried to end his life three times.
[00:05:40] Caryl Westmore: He was a London stockbroker and a midlife crisis at 40 turned him towards multiple addictions, including cocaine. He ended up totally bereft of his job, total depression; in a funk, and in trying to commit suicide. After the third time, he committed [00:06:00] himself to a hospital in London and within three or four days, one of his friends had got through to him with a book called Letting Go, the Pathway to Surrender by David Hawkins.
[00:06:14] Caryl Westmore: So, he had had this desperate, dramatic resistance shattering event when his life fell apart and all he could think of doing after he read that book, he got some aspect of sanity. He began to find some inner peace and he decided to take himself away from London to visit friends he had made many years ago in Argentina.
[00:06:37] Caryl Westmore: The next year he recuperated, he cleaned himself up, he took up things like yoga and became a vegetarian. And in the end, within two years, he had a new life and was invited to work in The Bahamas following his soul calling. He always wanted to live by the sea. He also found a new partner who is a yoga teacher-trainer.
[00:06:59] Caryl Westmore: [00:07:00] So there was another example of where devastating trauma ended in a breakthrough.
[00:07:07] Caryl Westmore: What David Hawkins says in his book Letting Go is that what we resist persists. The mind gives us attachments and beliefs we think are necessary for our survival. So, in my case, I thought I had to keep up the appearance of my marriage, which was like oil and water. With Sam, he thought he had to put on this mask to be a stockbroker to live a high life with a girlfriend who had her interests in wining and dining in posh restaurants. Et cetera.
[00:07:38] Caryl Westmore: And now he lives a much simpler, peaceful yet fulfilling life.
David Hawkins said, let go the programs that made us slaves or victims. And do it in bits. If it’s massive, say someone lost their job after working for a company all his life, he can’t just say, “well, I’m going to let go totally and surrender to the fact that I’ve lost my job.”[00:08:00]
[00:08:00] Caryl Westmore: He might be in such deep despair that Hawkins suggested that he should let go bit by bit. Maybe first the attachment they had to the parking space they had or to meeting their colleagues for lunch. He said, you can do it in bits, but in the end, you have to surrender and let go.
[00:08:19] Caryl Westmore: Dr. David Hawkins (who died in 2012) is also famous for many books on spirituality. The most well-known one is Power versus Force, the hidden determinants of human behavior.
[00:08:34] Caryl Westmore: Now, he was a psychologist, a psychiatrist, a scientist, and people listened to him about letting go.
KEYS TO LET GO
[00:08:57] Caryl Westmore: Stop suppressing feelings, [00:09:00] release resentments, overcome resistance, surrender the ego, and deepen self-awareness. He said that will bring you inner peace. And he also had a very useful emotional scale that he developed and that he gave out to the world… a proven energy scale using kinesiology.
[00:09:23] Caryl Westmore: He made it a map of consciousness showing that when we are mired in fear and despair and the negative emotions, which are usually due to suppressed feelings that can go back to our childhood, we are in a very low vibration.
[00:09:40] Caryl Westmore: He called it below 200. Anger can be among those, which can help you bring you up out of those lower vibrations like grief, sorrow and depression which are all in the lower vibrations. Now, the way out of it is to get to at least courage, and that is where [00:10:00] I say you need to take the inner path of letting go of resistance and breaking through, breaking free to the higher levels of love, peace, enlightenment, joy, and the happiness scale.
[00:10:16] Caryl Westmore: So, I’m just throwing that in there because his book, Letting Go is part of the protocol of reaching the higher vibrations.
[00:10:24] Caryl Westmore: Now let’s turn to Tina Turner. When she passed away earlier this year, May the 24th, I was reading her book on happiness, and I was surprised to hear that she was in an abusive relationship with Ike Turner for many years.
[00:10:41] Caryl Westmore: That’s where she got her name Tina Turner. But when three different people told her about a magic mantra, which was a chant, a Japanese chant, she listened. And this mantra called the Nam Myoho Renege Kyo [excuse my pronunciation.] It’s called the [00:11:00] Lotus Sutra in Japanese. And what she did was for an hour a day, she chanted this mantra while she was still married to Ike who wouldn’t even let her go to meetings to chant because he held so much control over her, She wasn’t allowed to leave the house, but she began to chant this mantra for an hour a day. She says in her book that it gave her the courage to leave him and file for divorce and when it came to splitting up the assets; she given the intuitive insight to let everything go, not fight for a single thing.
[00:11:36] Caryl Westmore: And she said all I’m taking from this marriage is the name Tina Turner. As time went on, Tina says that she used this mantra throughout her life to overcome challenges. Its meaning is “I align and connect with my inner Buddha nature… I bow to the Mystic law of the Lotus Sutra to blossom and feel happy, beautiful, energetic, and full of [00:12:00] life.”
[00:12:00] Caryl Westmore: And the interesting thing, she would chant for an hour before going on stage. Tara Gold, the co-writer of her book, Happiness Becomes You went to some of her concerts and what he noticed when he was sitting near the front row was that the minute Tina came on stage and began singing, the audience’s eyes would tear up.
[00:12:19] Caryl Westmore: So, he went to the back of the auditorium and he said the same thing was happening. The whole audience was tearing up just as she appeared on stage and he asked her did you know this happened? And she said, well, before every concert I do the magic mantra chant for an hour. And it is my intention with the chant that it will go forth to every single person in the audience and help them release their resistance to finding their true happiness.
[00:12:49] Caryl Westmore: So that is why I am now practicing this chant. You can find it on YouTube. I am finding it’s a resistance-clearing and [00:13:00] happiness-bringing mantra. So, I leave it with you to pursue and look it up. Tina Turner’s magic mantra.
[00:13:08] Caryl Westmore: So that’s one way to answer the question, how can you turn resistance into opportunity? Another way which I have spent my lifetime investigating is energy psychology. And if you read my books, You can Break Free Fast, E F T Tapping; Power Boost the Law of Attraction with Matrix Reimprinting; and even my book, Online Dating Success Secrets, How to find true lasting love, attract your Love hero, and dump the love villains like I did. I used energy clearing techniques plus the law of attraction. And this is what I teach in all my books, including for writers now, recently published The Inner Path of Writing. Make love, not war to the writer within.
[00:13:53] Caryl Westmore: And upcoming in the next quarter of 2023 is my new book for Writers: Bust Writer’s Block [00:14:00] Forever, Seven Game-Changing Ways for Writers, Authors, to Kiss Writers’ Block Goodbye and Unleash Creative Inspiration.
[00:14:10] Caryl Westmore: Well, there’s seven game changing ways, which I’m sharing, and the eighth way, which came as I was writing the book.
[00:14:17] Caryl Westmore: As a bonus chapter is how ChatGPT and AI can be a creative catalyst for you when you want to break through writer’s block or achieve your greatest creative inspiration. So that book will be coming out soon. And from it, I have chosen to share one of the chapters from Part two, the Quest to Bust Writer’s Block.
[00:14:43] Caryl Westmore: The book covers The Work of Byron Katie; freeing your best self. Havening for Self soothing your anxiety; E F T Matrix Tapping for hacking your reality; Logosynthesis for taking back your power; Alter Ego for rewriting your story. The Journey for silencing your inner saboteurs.
The one [00:15:00] I’m going to share with you now is Chapter 11, Internal Family Systems. IFS, harnessing Self-energy to heal blocks. I really recommend that you get the book by Internal Family Systems creator Richard Schwartz called No Bad Parts. IFS views the Mind as a system of multiple parts, each with its own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. In his parts therapy, which he is now teaching at Harvard Medical School and which has highly praised by people like Bessel Van de Kock in his book: The Body Bears the Burden.
[00:15:37] Caryl Westmore: Many trauma therapists are accepting and praising Richard Schwartz for what he has pioneered with parts therapy. Three of the main parts are what he calls managers, firefighters, and exiles. Managers are the parts of you that try to keep you safe and in control. [00:16:00] Firefighters are the parts of you that react to stress or danger.
[00:16:05] Caryl Westmore: And Exiles are the parts of you that carry emotions or experiences that have been pushed away or suppressed.
[00:16:13] Caryl Westmore: So, I hope you can see the correlation between all the work I talk about in beating resistance so that you can find the gem within that resistance and come out the other side with peace, happiness and hope.
[00:16:29] Caryl Westmore: And living your soul’s purpose. Overlighting the different parts of us that are playing up or causing problems based on suppressed emotions is the Self, which takes on a compassionate and empowering role, guiding the exploration and healing of the parts by developing a trusting relationship with the Self.
[00:16:50] Caryl Westmore: Individuals can facilitate internal healing, transform limiting beliefs, and integrate conflicting parts into a more harmonious [00:17:00] and coherent whole. Our parts can sometimes be disruptive or harmful, says Schwartz, but once they’re unburdened, they return to their essential goodness, and unburdened is the word he uses to free up the parts that are suffering from unexpressed emotion and trauma.
[00:17:21] Caryl Westmore: He says that when we learn to love all our parts, we can learn to love all people and that will contribute to healing the world.
[00:17:32] Caryl Westmore: To recap and conclude this episode, I asked you what is resistance? And we heard from Stephen Pressfield: “where there is a dream, there is resistance.” I asked you, can you, are you willing to hear how you can turn your resistance into opportunity?
[00:17:51] Caryl Westmore: I shared that to truly break free and through Resistance, you can do it either of two ways:
1. When disaster strikes, or
2. You can follow the inner path, which I recommend.
[00:17:59] Caryl Westmore: Triggers [00:18:00] present a doorway of opportunity to resolve resistance by the inner path. So, it’s not that you don’t have any resistance or any blocks as a writer, but that you can have tools, a toolbox, to heal the resistance to break through along what I call the inner path.
[00:18:19] Caryl Westmore: Today I presented three ways: Letting Go with Dr. David Hawkins; The Lotus Sutra Mantra which was Tina Turner’s Secret to Happiness and Internal Family Systems, which looks at how the Higher Self can be orchestrating and harmonizing our parts.
[00:18:37] Caryl Westmore: In my book, Bust Writer’s Block Forever, I address some of these game-changing ways for writers to kiss writer’s block goodbye
[00:18:47] Caryl Westmore: The whole concept is that we have inner parts that have been traumatized and I describe tools like Energy Psychology; the Work of Byron Katie; Logosynthesis etc. There are many tools in this toolbox which [00:19:00] can help you to break free forever. The cherry on the top is that we can use ChatGTP as a creative catalyst in our journey to break through resistance and look for the opportunity.
[00:19:13] Caryl Westmore: So, I hope you enjoyed this presentation and my thoughts on how you can turn resistance into opportunity.
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[00:19:43] Caryl Westmore: Download it at writethebookinsideyou.com/freegift the links are in the show notes. Until next time, a big virtual hug and keep writing.[00:20:00]